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Joanna Huang's avatar

Sleeping on it is my go to!

I work with a lot of clinical psychologists and neuroscientists on teaching preventative measures to improved wellbeing in children and families. Subscribed, hope we can read each other’s work in this area and exchange ideas. joannasarc.substack.co

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Your link is broken but I found you :)

Charlsey Childers's avatar

I completely agree. Sometimes sleep solves things!

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Really annoyingly often :)

Homo Viator's avatar

Some conversations need a rested brain more than another hour.

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Truly learned the hard way. :)

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

In my house, nothing every good happens after about 8pm...that's when my primitive brain kicks into high gear!

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

If things continue as they have been, pretty soon I'll be getting in bed at 6pm. :)

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

You and me both friend!

Caroline • Desire In Real Life's avatar

Wonderful! For me, nothing good happens after 9pm! 🤣

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

I mean same, I was much younger then 😂

Elizabeth Lacey's avatar

I really enjoyed this article Andrea. As a pursuer in relationship with a withdraw, I can totally relate. And as a couple therapist, I’d say you’re right on the money. Nothing good happens after 2 AM and it’s almost impossible to act on that reality when you’re fighting at 2 AM it’s kind of a catch 22 isn’t it?

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

It sure is! I’m grateful my withdrawer taught me this eventually 😊

Peter Zawal's avatar

A very nice explanation, Anne. It's a reminder of two things, for me. That I should try to get to sleep earlier (good luck with that, self), and that not having a partner has, at least, some value. Fortunately, I don't argue with myself, so I'm safe in that respect.

Like your lengthy sleeps, I simply cannot imagine talking to someone on the phone for that length of time. And in bed? Wow.

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

You don't argue with yourself?? What kind of superhero are you?

And yeah, don't really recommend the conversation length, much like many other things I routinely did in my youth. :)

Peter Zawal's avatar

Not a superhero, but maybe a little different to most.

Youth brings many habits that we later look on with serious doubt - life is like that.

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

It definitely is 🙂