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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

I love this and there is no doubt in my mind that there is an audience for your book. A big one. Count me in.

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Thank you!! I’ll add you to my list of buyers 😂

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Tell the publishing house I'll buy two😂

Tathra Street's avatar

Also came here from the Flow group, and am certainly up against the challenges of a long-term relationship and keeping it alive, keen to hear more about your work. I've been with my wife for 21 years, married for 6, since same-sex marriage became legal in Australia. Lots to say on this topic and interested in hearing about what you learned as a couples therapist. And of course, I'm curious how queer-friendly it is, if you have same-sex couples in your practice and how relevant some of the assumed norms might play out.

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Hi, Tathra! It's good to meet you here. :) I definitely aim to keep it queer-friendly as I am queer myself (albeit married to a man) and many of my clients are as well. My book has a lesbian couple and a non-monogamous couple for that reason. :)

I would LOVE to hear any thoughts or feedback you have, particularly if you notice me drifting into hetero-land. I do sometimes because a lot of the "standard cycle" has gender components so I have to always watch myself about that.

Clara J. Thorne's avatar

My Marlowe is a 3-yo human child that does not understand I can’t type with a person curled under one arm. I hope your platform explodes!

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Your human child is NAMED Marlowe or is just serving a similar function? If they're named Marlowe I am impressed. Though equally impressed that you try to type with a person attached to you.

Clara J. Thorne's avatar

Catlike behaviors, heh heh. She shall not be named upon the internets for fear of unspecified adults

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Very reasonable. I might call her Marlowe in my head, though. (My Marlowe is gone now, alas, so it's nice to think he's an immortal toddler)

Clara J. Thorne's avatar

Can’t think of a better proxy

Tiffany Bertolami-Fong's avatar

Hi Andrea and Marlowe, I saw you in the Flow group. I look forward to reading more!

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Hi! Thanks for coming by :)

Man With No Name's avatar

Hi Andrea

It's very nice to hear more about you and why you are here.

And Marlowe - yes

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Hi! It's great to have you. :)

Penelope Blackwood's avatar

I love this introduction, Andrea - and hello, Marlowe!

Also working on a publishing project and feeling much the same.

There might be some cross-over in our projects, while you are writing about couple therapy - my memoir is about feminine desire, open marriage inside a a 40+ year marriage.

Co-writing with my husband was in it's own rite, a couples therapy. ❤️

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

I imagine there is SIGNIFICANT cross-over! :) I love that y'all are writing it together, and that you've used this exploration to deepen your bond. I'm so excited to read more about it.

Notes From The In-Between's avatar

😉🩷

Trysa Shulman's avatar

Hello from a fellow PsyD who joined substack recently as I’m in the process of writing a book. And I’ve also fallen in love with all the amazing reading I get to do on here!

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

Ooh I want to hear about yours!

Trysa Shulman's avatar

My book is called *What’s Getting You Down?*

Five Types of Depression and What Each Needs for Healing & Health

I’ve found treatments that are effective with one type of depression might not be effective with others. Patients often get caught for years in treatments that lack specificity in addressing and healing the underlying causes of their depression. Either the symptoms remain, or the symptoms get better for a time and then get worse again, and either way, the patient is left feeling more hopeless than when they started.

The book provides a framework that can be used to reduce the time lost to treatments for depression that do not work, not because they are invalid, but because they are not well matched with the sufferer’s particular case of depression.

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

That sounds very useful!

.✦ ݁˖ Jaycee .✦ ݁˖'s avatar

your dissertation sounds so interesting! i’m in college right now for school counseling, so all of your articles have fascinated me!!

Andrea J. Medaris, Psy.D.'s avatar

That’s awesome! Boy do we need more of you 🙂 super glad you’re around